Have you seen this happen to a woman you know?
She gets very close to success – then turns her attention in
She has an opportunity to “shine” at a meeting, but turns it
over to someone else.
You compliment her on what a great job she did and she gives
credit to the team instead.
She has a million-dollar idea, but decides to take the safer
route and get a steady job and pursue the idea “later.”
These are examples of “playing not to lose” and it’s often a
common ailment of women in business. It’s taking the safe
option instead of really going for it.
While part of this may be a result of our culture, we still
have choices. And that choice can be to “play to win!”
There are five principles for a “Play to Win” attitude.
1. Be Decisive. In business there are opportunities that are
time-sensitive and if you delay in making a choice, you may
lose the chance. From ordering lunch to signing contracts to
choosing the ideal outfit, you need to learn to trust
yourself and make decisions quickly. Start with the menu at
lunch tomorrow. Make your choice in less than a minute, then
enjoy more time for your lunch and the conversation.
2. Live with a Commitment to Learning. Part of the learning
cycle is recognizing and admitting that you don’t know. Be
open to asking questions and give up the need to be the
ultimate authority. You’ll enjoy a confidence that it’s okay
to be you.
3. Learn from Mentors with Experience. Successful people did
not achieve their success alone, yet we sometimes think we
need to do it all ourselves. Seek out a mentor and absorb
their guidance and advice. It doesn’t make you appear less
capable by asking for help. It evokes thoughts of “Winner”
when you are willing to ask for mentoring.
4. Be Resourceful with Daily Activities. Women are naturally
good at multitasking, so we tend to be very efficient. But
what that talent does yield sometimes is a lack of focus. So
learning to balance the focus and the multitasking is key to
the Play to Win attitude.
5. Join a Team of Like-Minded Players. In the famous book
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, the power of the
Mastermind is emphasized. It is important to align yourself
with others who are on the level to which you aspire. So be
cautious in your associations with people, organizations and
even what you read and watch! Be sure they are on the same
Learning to Play to Win is a process which can be learned
and practiced on a daily basis. Start now to stomp out that
“playing not to lose” attitude and start winning!
Here’s to your Power –