Traveling: The Good and The Bad

by Melanie Edwards on May 16, 2012 · 8 comments

in life, Wahm, Working Mothers


Three weeks of travel can certainly throw you for a loop. One one hand, I was able to attend two conferences and attend a brand event, so business-wise, they were good trips. On the other hand, I’m internally off-balance after traveling three weeks in a row.

Good and bad. There were plenty of good things about these trips and I don’t regret for a second going on any of them. But, as is true with much in life, with the good comes the bad.

The Good

  • I was very lucky to have been able to take my family along for both conferences. Though I was mostly attending the conferences, I did get to see them in the mornings and nights. This helped ease the “miss you” moments for both the kids and myself.
  • I was able to meet new people, have great conversations, and learn from all three trips.
  • I had time to reflect on several things and take advantage of some quiet time to be able to just think.
  • I was able to learn more about this brand and find ways we can possibly work together in the future.
  • I came home from the most recent trip feeling more calm and full of ideas, rather than feeling just tired. I’m still tired, but the feeling was lessened.

The Bad

  • My routine was thrown off and is still off.
  • I’m still catching up on work.
  • My family missed me, and I missed them.
  • My daughter, in particular, was affected by the most recent trip and shed some tears in class because she missed me.
  • My head is spinning a bit from being in many places within such a short time, but in a good kind of way.

None of this is extreme or unmanageable. My girl’s classroom situation really affected me the day I received notice from her teacher. But, after talking with her about it and thinking it through, I realized that at least she was able to express her thoughts. I explained to her that it’s absolutely normal to feel that way and that I too missed her. She also realizes these trips are part of my work and describes them as such. I feel it’s good for her to see this side of me in addition to the other roles she sees me play at home.

There are months where I go without any travel, so in the end, all things even out. How do you balance out the good and the bad of business travel?

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1 Ciri Fenzel May 18, 2012 at 8:58 am

Thanks for the good and the bad perspectives. I’ve been able to manage most of my work virtually for the last several years, but I know the time will come sooner than later when I’ll need to take the long trips without the family. As you say, balance is the key.


2 modernmami May 23, 2012 at 8:48 am

How great you’ve been able to work remotely! It is about balance, as much as you can, at least.


3 Caroline/SmartyPantsMama May 18, 2012 at 9:26 am

Still trying to figure it out. I get so overwhelmed coordinating childcare and such when I’m out of town. It stinks. Thankfully three local conferences made my travels a little easier recently.


4 greenandcleanmom May 18, 2012 at 9:36 am

Yes childcare is hard. I try to trade with my sister. =)


5 modernmami May 23, 2012 at 8:50 am

That’s awesome!


6 modernmami May 23, 2012 at 8:49 am

The logistics of childcare, school pick-up/drop-off, and all other things that go into planning a trip, does get a bit overwhelming sometimes. I thought it was great there were so many Florida-based events this year!


7 greenandcleanmom May 18, 2012 at 9:35 am

Traveling is hard on my kids. I try to make the trips short ones – even if I have to fly a red eye. Some months there are no trip and other months I  have 2 or 3 trips. I like to talk to them via Skype, leave little notes and a chocolate coin for them to eat each day and when the last coin is eaten mom is coming home. I also always bring them a little gift. =)

I used to feel bad about traveling but my husband travels and does not feel guilty because it is for work so why should I? I also try really hard to choose my trips carefully.

It’s tough, no doubt but it seems like a lot of good came out of the trips. I would have never advanced or gotten where I am as a blogger without travel and connecting to others in person.


8 modernmami May 23, 2012 at 8:51 am

That’s exactly it. Some months nothing and then out of nowhere you have a month with multiple trips back-to-back. I do choose trips carefully and turn down those that don’t make sense for me.


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