A lady at the grocery store shared with me her feelings about a kid throwing a fit while shopping. Watch the video to hear what she told me!
How do you handle tantrums at the grocery store?
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Before I had my daughter I used to feel it was the parents fault and they needed to learn how to control their kids. Not to to the point that I would want to choke the child though. But now I’ve learned that you can’t always talk with them or reason with them to calm down. Screaming or yelling doesn’t make any better either. So I think you have the right idea. Just leave and come back another time. They can’t always express what they’re feeling in words so they act out. Especially when they’re tired.
I feel it is the parent’s fault, to a point. Any child acting out needs to be dealt with and if that means leaving the store then do it. If a parent is continuing to shop while their child(ren) are screaming and crying then they are causing other shoppers to have to deal with their child’s misbehavior. When my kids were little (under age 4) there were a few times when I left a grocery cart in the store and headed home with my child. My 1st job is to train my children and allowing them to pitch a fit in a public space and not dealing with it means I am not doing my job as a mom. By the time they had turned 4 my children were well aware of the consequences for misbehaving in public and it hasn’t been a problem since.
I also thought it was the parent’s fault before having kids! But I think we do our best to teach them and to try to control them in public in general. And it’s not anybody’s fault, ultimately it’s how life goes! Kids through tantrums! I have this technique which has worked at restaurants mostly. I say there is a room here (where ever place we are at) where they take kids to stay for a little while if they want to cry and scream because mami and the other adults don’t want to hear you, it’s ok if you need to scream, you can just go there and when you are feeling calm you can come back. I have done it before (I have taken him outside the restaurant and tell him to sit there then go in (Watching him from the inside without him looking) he cries a lot and when he is calm I go and get him. It’s hard but I only did it a couple of times and then later he knew what would happen so immediately after the tantrum and my look he know not to!! I got this technique from Love and Logic. I have done it only with my oldest, let’s see what happens with the little one now!
I think most people who make comments like these have never had children. :/