Comments on: Working Fathers Feel Same Pressure as Working Moms

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 14:33:28 +0000

@Angie the Anti-Theist, There are so many issues, aren’t there? I think it’s hard no matter what.

By: Angie the Anti-Theist

Angie the Anti-Theist — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 02:50:00 +0000

I’m a single mom and have so many single dad friends. The main difference is that for most of them there is joint custody, and I have sole custody of Little Man – and no financial or childcare help. I’ve known stay-at-home-dads and was raised by a single working mother. I guess I’ve never really thought of the issues as being mom/dad ones, just working/home issues (or “trying to do both with no money” issues if you’re a single parent)

By: Link Cariño | Hissip

Link Cariño | Hissip — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 13:04:23 +0000

[...] Working fathers are actually feeling pressured like working moms. [...]

By: Shalvika Sood

Shalvika Sood — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 14:00:38 +0000

@Melanie (Modern Mami), The good news is that people have already started recognizing it. The bad news is that it might take time for something to get done! So it helps when you write and get people to talk about it. The germ propagates!!

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 11:26:04 +0000

@Shalvika Sood, I completely agree. Too often it’s assumed that dads don’t care. My husband would LOVE more time for our daughter. Great input and I love your friend’s comment.

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 11:24:15 +0000

@Miss Britt, Really, no? Not even the more time with the kids part?

By: Miss Britt

Miss Britt — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:49:09 +0000

I can honestly say that I don’t feel like my husband has that same struggle.

By: Shalvika Sood

Shalvika Sood — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 09:22:57 +0000

I would say it’s a confirmation and its a growing global trend. I’ve seen this juggle leaves fathers stressed and enormously guilty of missing out on their chidlren’s lives (especially in the formative years). While mothers generally get sympathetic and understanding response to flexi hours, in fathers it is still looked upon as an anomaly. A friend of mine once remarked rather ruefully that from 50% contribution at the time of conception his share in ‘child development’ had fallen down to a mere 10%! He was more upset about the assumption people made that this is would be his natural choice! So in all fairness, it’s time for us to extend the same understanding and the right to choose to fathers as well!