I am not your Modern Mami. And this is not my blog.
I am, in fact, Miss Britt and this is my blog. Which begs the question, what am I doing here?
She asks, “Is raising a boy different from raising a girl?”
I am uniquely qualified to handle this question because I am a girl and know several boys. Also, I have a son and a daughter. One could say that I am raising them, or at the very least trying my best not to screw them up too badly.
The answer, dear Melanie, is:
Most definitely, yes.
In fact, raising a girl is so different from raising a boy that it can leave you wondering if you have ever actually done this before because you quite clearly have no freaking CLUE what is going on even though you could have SWORN you have already been through this parenting stage not so long ago.
And the differences have absolutely nothing to do with what you had prepared yourself for. You came home and painted the nursery pink, only to find that your young daughter would tell you as soon as she could form the words how TOTALLY STUPID PINK IS!. You packed away the action figures and stocked up on Little Ponies and Polly Pockets, and were completely surprised to learn that I WANNA PLAY WITH A GUYZZZZ! WHERE IS MY GUYZZZZ???
And the only child whose been caught anywhere near that dollhouse set is your 8 year old son.
Oh yes, raising boys and girls is very different.
And not just because your expectations are different.
Well, maybe MOSTLY because your expectations are different.
But also because you suddenly become acutely aware of what the world will expect of your kids – and how THOSE are so vastly different for each of them. One will be pushed to grow up big and strong, while the other will be praised for being beautiful and charming. One will be allowed to well up with tears over dang near anything, while the other one will be told to suck it up if their emotions ever overwhelm them.
Suddenly you find yourself preparing two people, with entirely separate personalities for two starkly different worlds – all under the same roof under the constraints of one set of rules.
Raising boys is a challenge. Raising girls is also a challenge.
But raising boys AND girls together is a completely different challenge all its own.