Comments on: The One Time 149 Pounds is Actually a Bad Thing

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:53:16 +0000

@Belle, Gracias. I’m sorry to hear your father passed at such a young age. Thanks for sharing.

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:41:48 +0000

@Elsa, I’m sorry about your mom. You can never be prepared for that.

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:40:56 +0000

@Dr. Mommy, You’re right. It’s the communication part that is at its worst right now. With me being the youngest and only girl, it’s nearly impossible for me to speak up to my dad…as you said, you know how it is with Hispanic families. We’re trying. Thanks!

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:39:35 +0000

@Kelly, Oh wow! Kelly I’m so sorry. My dad has definitely not been progressing that fast, thank God. You should finish that post; it might help.

By: Melanie (Modern Mami)

Melanie (Modern Mami) — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:38:19 +0000

@Robyns Online World, It does help, you’re right. It’s just hard to share when it’s not your personal story, you know? I definitely don’t want to upset the family. And sorry about your grandma.

By: Belle

Belle — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 03:51:13 +0000

My prayers go out to your family. My father made it to the age of 48. Diabetes took his life. I never physically saw my father deteriorate. We lived in Florida while he stayed back in Puerto Rico. Cherish the time you have with your papa. Even if the horizon seems dim. Remind him of all the good times. Play the music of his youth, talk, even listen. I wish I had a chance to hear and see my father one last time. Remember these moments, though sad, are still for you and him.

By: Elsa

Elsa — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 19:47:38 +0000

I don’t have experience with dementia but I lost my mom to heart disease not even 2 yrs after she was diagnosed and well, we kinda had time to prepare but I don’t think you’ll ever be ready for when they leave… today she would have turned 58 yrs old … she too regressed to acting like a kid even though her memory was in good shape … my sis and I started asking her about a lot of stuff from her past, because we knew that she didn’t have long … it helped us to understand her better and it will help us in making sure that our kids get to know her and do not forget her. Hugs – if you need to vent, we are here for you

By: Dr. Mommy

Dr. Mommy — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:52:22 +0000

Your thoughts and concerns are very valid ones. We must not neglect our parents and realize that just as they took care of us, it’s now our turn. Most importantly communicating your feelings and concerns. I know all too well how the Hispanic families can be, but we must get past that when it comes to the health and well being of our own. I’ll be praying for you and your family and know that I am always here for you. Losing a loved one is never fun, I’ve lost both my parents, but not talking about it is worse. Hugs:)

By: Kelly

Kelly — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:46:16 +0000

Melanie I completely understand where you are coming from with this. My grandma had the exact same thing, only difference was, she progressed rapidly and in less than a month it took over.

I started writing a post like this a couple of months ago and I just haven’t been able, mentally, to finish it.

We are all here for you.

By: Robyns Online World

Robyns Online World — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 18:40:28 +0000

It is hard to not worry. Having just lost my grandma, I saw her medical conditions just keep multiplying – she didn’t have enough chance between one thing before something new would start. One of the best things is to talk, share, and love – it works wonders for everyone!